What Unnecessary Baggage Do You Carry In Life?
Let's talk about baggage in life.
In our journey in life, we tend to pick up baggage that weighs us down, some of these baggage are unplanned, some were as a result of uncalculated risk, while some were passed unto us from our parents and so we find it hard to let go of it.
What is the Baggage? It is the unnecessary weight we carry about in life; talking about the bad experience from a failed relationship, trauma, bad habits, and the unpleasant lifestyle we emulated from people or our parents or the effect of the hurtful words from a friend, family, or neighbor, a silly mistake that has cost us a lot.
This is one is inevitable because we are all social beings, and so we come in contact with people as we embark on this journey called life.
Most of us have fallen in and out of love, and for every failed relationship, there is baggage from it, maybe because we came in contact with people who are toxic, insincere, manipulators, and the like, they mess up our emotions and leave us broken.
We trusted, but they broke our trust, which leaves us with "trust issues", while some make us feel little or make us feel like we can never do anything right in this life which leaves us with an 'inferiority complex, even insecurities, or fear of failure'.
Some of us are compassionate people, but then we come in contact with people who are nonchalant towards us, no matter how much we care for them, they never reciprocate, we too begin to stop doing the most for people and in time, we end being uncaring.
While growing up, we might have lived with people who have anger issues and are hot-tempered, chances are, we too might begin to develop these bad traits like anger and a hot temper.
I've heard people saying, they don't want to get married because they come from broken homes or have seen and experienced separation or divorce from close friends, or family and now they live in fear for they too do want to be a victim.
For some, they live in regret all the days of their lives, simply because of the silly mistake they've done in the past, they feel they aren't worth being alive, loved, seen, or heard.
These are all forms of emotional, baggage that are a result of fear, anger, guilt, or hurtful experiences.
No way!!
But there's so much work to be done by you.
First.. Release all of them and breathe!!!
To be able to release this baggage, we first acknowledge which of the baggage we are carrying in Life.
The next step is to Learn, unlearn and relearn, which means we must be open-minded to learn new ways to live a free life, be aware of the bad habits or baggage weighing us down, be ready to discard them, and practice good habits which help us to feel better and become better versions of ourselves, we can learn life lessons from a bad situation which helps us to be better at the end of the day.
You had a bad relationship? Have you thought of ways you could have done better? What does the experience teach you? Pick out the positive lessons, like resilience!! Every failed relationship taught us to bounce back better and stronger.
Came from a parent with poor parenting skills? Have you thought of ways to be a better parent to your child and avoid the same mistake your parent did?
No one truly cares about you? Have you thought of ways to care for others too? To have a friend, you must be a friend, and even if you do care, no one reciprocates, have you thought of ways of replacing self-love with compassion? Which means understanding your limitations and that of others.
Struggling with an inferiority complex, will limit you from soaring, have you thought about your strength that might be a weakness for others? How about reaffirming yourself today and every other day?
Are you a perfectionist? Have you thought about your flaws and seen reasons why you should accept your shortcomings?
Struggling with regret? Do you realize that you are only human, and the good thing is, you are ready to right your wrong? Take responsibility for your action.
Scared of falling in love? Have you thought about how beautiful love is? And how you too can spice your relationship with the little things you do? Holding on to the past will only deprive you of the good thing coming ahead of you.
Well, this is to remind us not to dwell on any baggage that might weigh us down, to forgive ourselves, reflect, delete, and move on.
Take the good lesson from the ugly experience and keep going.
I hope this post leaves you with so many positivities that your background doesn't define who you are and you can drop unnecessary baggage if you are willing to.
Thank you for stopping by, till we meet again, this is Amie Geoffrey.
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