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Several missed calls.

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"I don't like what you always do, you are always like this Jane!!", Jude angrily left the house slamming the door Jane placed his hands on her ears to ensure her ear drum wasn't damaged. After Jude angrily left, Jane managed to have her seat right in front of the dressing mirror and stared at herself for a while, she was in a blue dress, her husband's favorite color, and her hair was messy as they'd been arguing for a while, " Why do we always quarrel over trivial matter?", she asked herself as her eyes were fixed on the mirror, sooner enough the tears dripped down her cheek, "This isn't the kind of marriage I planned for..why...?", she sniffed and then blinked severally trying to halt the tears from falling from her eyes. Earlier that day, Jane had forgotten to close the toilet seat, and Jude had always told her how much he hated the seat to be up. Jane repeated the same thing and Jude got angry, and then he brought up all the other ug...

The Commitment.

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My name is Benita and this is my story. While growing up, I grew up in a divided home and watched how hard it was for my mom to carter for me and my siblings. I vowed never to get married, because I fear experiencing a similar situation, I turned down so many guys because I was too scared to be hitched, but then I realized that one's grace isn't another's grace. Because it ended badly for my dad and mom doesn't mean it would end badly for me. I decided to have a positive view and mindset after encountering a very happy couple named the "Johnsons". It is not like they never fought they learned how to manage it. Mrs. Johnson taught me the ingredients that could make up a lasting home, commitment, communication, forbearance, tolerance, compromise, taking responsibility for one's actions, gratitude for the little your partner does, and respecting boundaries are the major ingredients of a lasting marriage. " Benita, love is not enough." She said. Late...

What lies within your heart to give...Can you even pour out from an empty cup?

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How do you tell a person you love them, When you don't even love yourself? Is it even possible to pour from an empty cup? The truth is you cannot give what you don't have. Learn to care for yourself first, And see how effortlessly you care for others, Love yourself enough not to hurt yourself, Love yourself enough to know when to distance yourself from those whose energy doesn't match yours, People who make you feel less of yourself. How do you even compliment others When you don't even love how you look? Source You want people to affirm you every day when you fail to speak positivity into your life, How is it even possible? Pray for yourself first and see how easy it becomes to pray for others, How do you seek peace in the world, When you are in chaos with yourself? Do you seek forgiveness? Have you forgiven yourself for the silly mistake you made in the past? Have you let go of what is hurting you? Do that and see how easy it would be to let go of other people's e...

What makes us human?

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What makes us human? Source This question is broad you will agree with me. Well from my perspective, what makes us human are; Conscience The inner mind which tells us right from wrong makes us human, however many people have trained their conscience to do dirty and shitty things which makes life hard now for others. Culture What is humanity without tradition and culture? Culture makes us human, varieties of our food, music, and other cultural trait make us human. This trait shapes our thinking and behavior and influence who we are. Language and Speech Animals indeed communicate, however, the language of humans, being able to express themselves either thru sign language, body language or speech makes us human, makes it easy to understand each other and live together. Imagination The ability to make use of our brains and foresight makes us human. Having to see things from the eyes of our mind, and imagining our visions, goals, and dreams makes us human don't you think so? Love and mo...

Regrets.

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If I could turn back the hands of time, I would have done better, The words I held back from saying to you and how much you meant to me. How often I thought about you and prayed for you, That day I ran into you again and was in two minds, honestly, if I knew it was going to be the last, I would have stopped, hugged you, and told you all I've ever wanted to tell you. Source The last words you said to me were "Please call me", I was too angry to call you, days turned into weeks and weeks and months. Until I saw the " RIP" all over your wall on the media, Now I can't forgive myself for I live with guilt ever since then. Life isn't so complicated, We make it hard for ourselves, We fear being taken for granted and so we hide our deepest feelings from those we love, Until they are no more. I regretted everything. I do. If only I could turn back the hands of time. I would have done better. This is fictitious, but I guess things like this happens, when we hold b...

Stress and Diabetes..A deadly combination!

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Source Does stress have a huge side effect on diabetic patients? Find out! Stress is simply the way your body reacts to overwhelming or demanding situations, it could be from meeting up with deadlines being overwhelmed with work, being anxious about how something will go, or even from illness or taking care of a sick person, the list is endless. Stress has a huge negative impact on our overall well-being and in fact, it is very dangerous for diabetic persons. Stress can trigger the brain to flood your body system with hormones. That is why one who is stressed has increased heart rate pulse, increased blood pressure, and even tensed muscles. What effect does stress have on diabetic patients? Stress can increase one's blood sugar level because the adrenaline level increases and then releases glucose from the liver which is why diabetic patients must do well to manage their stress level, they can do this by identifying what causes them to feel stressed and then learning how to manage ...

Whoever I kiss; is the one.

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Kiss of betrayal are the most painful ones, This simply means we are often let down by the ones we love the most, How come it is not so painful to be hurt by a stranger, But from someone who we love so much, we are deeply hurt. Source Be careful who you call your friend, Be careful who you are vulnerable with, Not everyone who claims to love you does. They come either when it's beneficial to them and then leave when it's no longer beneficial, They come as friends but deep down they are foes, Not every smile is genuine, Not every "I love you" is real. Love is not just a word, it should be shown in words and deeds, Don't believe it when they say they love you and act otherwise. Close people to you know your weaknesses, And it is so easy to get to you, They might have sold you and say.. "The one I kiss is the one". They show you fake love, And back stab you in the end.. Please stay safe, not only from COVID, But from foes disguised as friends. Thank you for...